I was born and raised in France where the educational system is maybe one of the most elitist in the world and where failure is a shame. I went to a private school where the bar was set so high that going to university was a failure and where teachers were the bullies with their sarcastic and humiliating comments. More generally speaking, I was raised in a society having as primary objective the avoidance of failure.
This fear of failure got under my skin so deeply that I had been paralyzed for years, not able to do anything on my own, not able to take my own decisions, and respecting rules when I should have been the one creating them. So believe me when I say I know what’s being afraid to fail. With fear of failure comes the obsessive perfectionism of course, and setting the bar so high that you can never reach it avoids you to fail since you never do anything.
But failing is important. Failing is good. You benefit from failure.
“Failure is a necessary part of the innovation process because from failure comes learning, iteration, adaptation, and the building of new conceptual and physical models through an iterative learning process. Almost all innovations are the result of prior learning from failures.” says Edward D. Hess . Well, I wished someone told me that 20 years ago instead of restlessly repeating that failure would ruin my life and that I wasn’t allowed to fail.
If you don’t do anything, if you don’t try anything new, if you don’t take risks, you won’t fail. But neither will you be creative nor innovative.
Everyone fails, especially in the music environment. Even the greatests. And particularly the greatests musicians. (I have a proof here!).
Failure is a part of the creative process. Don’t fear failure, embrace it as the biggest asset to help you go forward.